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April 14, 2012 / Jay Quigs

See This Site: Live4Life201

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I’m a 25 year old Bermudian/ American artist, writer, poet, philosopher & music producer. have three projects im currently working on at the time. The first is a book I’m writing entitled the enlightened rich man. It’s a book of poetry & altered version (fiction story) of a recent time in my life. The second project is 12 canvas of enlightenment, these are paintings that will also be illustrations for the enlightened rich man. & last but not least I’m making the music & building the sound track for the enlightened rich man. You can hear the music if you check out my soundcloud page.(live101 or Demetri Pamplin @soundcloud) So there you have it, I hope you enjoy checking out my work & I would love to hear for you soon. PEACE

April 14, 2012 / Jay Quigs

Cat In The House

via Cat In The House. Photos with meaning behind it. I’m impressed by the quality and artistic imagery! It’s a must see!

April 13, 2012 / Jay Quigs

Love’s Exquisite Freedom, by Maya Angelou

via A Message From The Creator. – Lady Romp

Love arrives;

and in its train come ecstasies

old memories of pleasure

ancient histories of pain.

Yet, if we are bold

love strikes away the chains of fear

from our souls.

We are weaned from our timidity.

In the flush of love’s light

we dare be brave

And suddenly we see

that love costs all we are

and will ever be.

Yet, it is only love

which sets us free.

– Maya Angelou

April 13, 2012 / Jay Quigs

The System is Against You…Until you wake up… Then, you can make it work for you

via The System is Against You…Until you wake up… Then, you can make it work for you.

If you don’t know it by now then let me tell you. This world is a system, a game of poker, and if you don’t know how to play then you will lose. It’s nothing to be afraid of. All you have to do is walk with an open mind, learn, ask questions, and know who’s giving you this information.

I always encourage people to learn their rights and laws of their society. When you play by the rules that the game master created then you will be surprised just how far you come up.

April 13, 2012 / Jay Quigs

The Dual (The Good, The Bad, We Humans)

A very good read: The Dual.

Understanding who we are as people, humans, and individuals is the greatest strength we could have. With that said we have to acknowledge our ‘good’ and our ‘bad’ in order to find harmony.

April 8, 2012 / Jay Quigs

15 Photoshopped Transformations of Celebs and Models

via 15 Photoshopped Transformations of Celebs and Models.

I like this post because it touches upon things many of us individuals forget often when we see anything coming out of the media.

It’s fake…

It’s easy to forget. I do all the time. Women and men are perfected by digital enhancement or cake makeup into this ideal, unrealistic being.

Women, you will still look great if you eat healthy and stay in shape. Why? Because you will feel great. What you feel will manifest into how the world sees you. Screw the stretch marks, short eyelashes, or uneven skin tone.

Men, you will still look great if you eat healthy and stay in shape. Why? Because you will feel great. What you feel will manifest into how the world sees you. Screw the flat abs, undefined jaw line, or uneven hair line.

April 1, 2012 / Jay Quigs

INFJ Personal Growth (For all my diamonds in the rough)

What does Success mean to an INFJ? People with the INFJ personality type are intense and perfectionistic. They have deep insights into many aspects of life, and usually have very high standards for their own understanding and accomplishments, as well as those of others. They are service-oriented and empathetic to other individuals. The INFJ strives for the ideal in every aspect of their life. An INFJ’s feeling of success is centered around their own level of understanding and accomplishment, their usefulness or service to others, and the condition of their personal relationships. The INFJ feels successful when they haved used their very deep understanding of something to do a real service for someone. We often see INFJ personality types as counsellors and teachers, or in the medical and health fields. Allowing Your INFJ Strengths to Flourish As an INFJ, you have gifts that are specific to your personality type that aren’t natural strengths for other types. By recognizing your special gifts and encouraging their growth and development, you will more readily see your place in the world, and be more content with your role. Nearly all INFJs will recognize the following characteristics in themselves. They should embrace and nourish these strengths:

  • They’re extremely insightful, and see things that are not obvious to others. This ability to see patterns and meanings in the world can help the INFJ in many different ways. INFJs usually have a great deal of insight into different people and situations.
  • When given a goal or context, an INFJ is able to generate all kinds of possibilities. They’re able to see the problem from many different angles.
  • They understand how others are feeling, and are genuinely concerned with others. This natural empathy and caring helps to be really effective at helping others through problems. In this manner, they make great friends, counselors, teachers, and mates.
  • An INFJ has a “stick to it” attitude. They’re not afraid of hard work, and will put forth a great deal of effort towards something that they believe in. This persistence will help the INFJ to achieve an identified goal.
  • Perfectionistic and idealistic, they always strive for the best.
  • Usually intelligent and able to concentrate and focus, the INFJ can usually grasp difficult ideas and concepts.

INFJs who have a well-developed Extraverted Feeling function to complement their dominant Introverted iNtuition will enjoy these very special gifts:

  • They can turn their insightful understanding about a situation into a successful plan of action.
  • The INFJ with well-developed judgment will be able to grasp and process concepts that are beyond what their natural intelligence appears to be able to handle.
  • They may achieve a level of understanding that makes them appear wise.
  • The INFJ’s perfectionism and idealism, when combined with their empathy and genuine concern for others, can cause them to be true servants for people in some fashion. They may be great doctors or ministers or counselors. If they have also achieved a good amount of life wisdom, they can become powerful forces, such as Jesus (INFJ) and Mahatma Ghandi (INFJ).

Potential Problem Areas With any gift of strength, there is an associated weakness. Without “bad”, there would be no “good”. Without “difficult”, there would be no “easy”. We value our strengths, but we often curse and ignore our weaknesses. To grow as a person and get what we want out of life, we must not only capitalize upon our strengths, but also face our weaknesses and deal with them. That means taking a hard look at our personality type’s potential problem areas. INFJs are rare and intelligent people with many special gifts. This should be kept in mind as you read some of the more negative material about INFJ weaknesses. Remember that these weaknesses are natural. We offer this information to enact positive change, rather than as blatant criticism. We want you to grow into your full potential, and be the happiest and most successful person that you can become. Most of the weaker characteristics that are found in INFJs are due to their dominant function (Introverted iNtuition) overtaking their personality to the point that the other forces in their personality exist merely to serve the purposes of Introverted iNtuition. In such cases, an INFJ may show some or all of the following weaknesses in varying degrees:

  • May be unaware (and sometimes uncaring) of how they come across to others
  • May quickly dismiss input from others without really considering it
  • May apply their judgment more often towards others, rather than towards themselves
  • With their ability to see an issue from many sides, they may always find others at fault for any problems in their lives
  • May have unrealistic and/or unreasonable expectations of others
  • May be intolerant of weaknesses in others
  • May believe that they’re always right
  • May be obsessive and passionate about details that may be unimportant to the big picture
  • May be cuttingly derisive and sarcastic towards others
  • May have an intense and quick temper
  • May be tense, wound up, have high blood pressure and find it difficult to relax
  • May hold grudges, and have difficulty forgiving people
  • May be wishy-washy and unsure how to act in situations that require quick decision making
  • May have difficulty communicating their thoughts and feelings to others
  • May see so many tangents everywhere that they can’t stay focused on the bottom line or the big picture

Explanation of Problems Most of the problems described above are a result of Introverted iNtuition overtaking the INFJ’s personality to the point that all of the other functions become slaves to Introverted iNtuition. A healthy personality needs to have a good balance between its dominant and auxiliary functions. For an INFJ, the dominant Introverted iNtuition needs to be well-supported by the auxiliary Extraverted Feeling function. If Extraverted Feeling exists only to support the desires of Introverted iNtuition, then neither function is being used to its potential. Introverted iNtuition is a personality function that constantly gathers information, and sees everything from many different perspectives. As the dominant player in a personality, it has the effect of constantly bombarding the psyche with new information to consider. Introverted iNtuition is sort of like a framework for understanding that exists in the mind. As something is perceived, it is melded into the existing intuitive framework. If an entirely new piece of information is perceived by the Introverted iNtuitive, that person must redefine their entire framework of reference. So, Introverted iNtuitives are constantly taking in information about the world that needs to be processed in a relatively lengthy manner in order to be understood. That presents quite a challenge to the INFJ. It’s not unusual for an INFJ to feel overwhelmed with all of the things that he or she needs to consider in order to fully understand an idea or situation. When Introverted iNtuition dominates the INFJ such that the other functions cannot serve their own purposes, we find the INFJ cutting off information that it needs to consider. If the psyche is presented with information that looks anything like something that Introverted iNtuition has processed in the past, it uses Extraverted Feeling to quickly reject that information. The psyche uses Extraverted Feeling to reject the ideas, rather than taking the information into its intuitive framework, and therefore potentially causing that framework to be reshaped and redefined. Using Extraverted Feeling in this manner may effectively serve the immediate needs of Introverted iNtuition, but it is not ideal. It causes the INFJ to not consider information that may be useful or criticial in developing a real understanding of an issue. It may cause the INFJ to come off as too strongly opinionated or snobbish to others. The better use of Extraverted Feeling for an INFJ would be to use it to assess the INFJ’s rich insights and weigh them against the external world. When the INFJ personality uses Extraverted Feeling to cut off incoming information, rather than to judge internal intuitions, it is effectively cheating itself. It’s like getting the answers to a test without having to really understand the questions. It’s easier to get the answer right away, rather than to have to figure everything out. For the INFJ, who has a tremendous amount of information and “studying” that needs to be done, it’s very tempting to take shortcuts. Most INFJs will do this to some extent. The real problems occur when an INFJ personality has become so imbalanced that its owner is extremely self-important and rarely consider anyone else’s opinions or ideas. Solutions To grow as an individual, the INFJ needs to focus on applying their judgment to things only after they have gone through their intuition. In other words, the INFJ needs to consciously try not to use their judgment to dismiss ideas prematurely. Rather, they should use their judgment against their own ideas. One cannot effectively judge something that they don’t understand. The INFJ needs to take things entirely into their intuition in order to understand them. It may be neccesary to give your intuition enough time to work through the new information so that it can rebuild its global framework of understanding. INFJs need to focus on using their judgment not to dismiss ideas, but rather to support their intuitive framework. An INFJ who is concerned with personal growth will pay close attention to the subject of their judgments, and their motivation for making judgments. Are they judging something external to themself, or are they judging something that they have sifted through their intuition? Is the motivation for judging something to be able to understand its usefulness in the world, or to dismiss it? Too often, an INFJ will judge something without properly understanding it, and with the intention of dismissing it. Seek first to understand, then to judge. Living Happily in our World as an INFJ Some INFJs have difficulty fitting into our society. Their problems are generally associated with not knowing (or caring) how they come across to others, and with having unreasonable expectations for others’ behaviors. Both of these issues stem from using Extraverted Feeling primarily to dismiss external ideas, rather than to sort through their own intuitions. An INFJ who uses Extraverted Feeling in this diminished manner may become so strongly opinionated that they form rigid and unreasonable expectations for others. They may feel so strongly about things that they become very passionate and agitated when they feel that something has gone wrong. In these cases, it’s not uncommon for the INFJ to express their displeasure with biting sarcasm. They become so emotionally upset that they are generally not aware of how their behavior comes across to others. Even if the consequences of their attitude and behavior is pointed out to them, they may be agitated to the point that they don’t care. This kind of situation can be devastating to the INFJ on many levels, and should be avoided. There isn’t much that can be done once the INFJ has reached the point where they are too upset to care about others, but the INFJ can prevent this problem from occuring by ensuring that they never get to that point. How can you, as an INFJ, ensure that you won’t get that upset? It probably seems to you that these kinds of upsets are caused by external circumstances and situations. Well, that’s not really true. It’s true that things will happen over which you have no control. But you certainly have control over how you perceive these things, or more appropriately, how you *judge* these things. Specific suggestions:

  • Take care to listen to someone’s idea entirely before you pass judgment on it. Ask questions if neccesary. Do whatever it takes to make sure that you understand the idea. Try not to begin judging anything about the idea until you have understood it entirely.
  • Before you begin talking to another person, pause for a moment and look at that person. Take in that person’s attitude and feelings at that moment. Be aware of the person with whom you’re speaking.
  • If you become upset, walk away immediately. DO NOT express anger. When you get angry, you lose. After you have calmed down, apologize for leaving and continue with what you were doing.
  • Try to identify the personality type of everyone that you encounter frequently in your life. Remember that people with the Sensing preference need to be communicated with in a direct, concise manner. Speak plainly and simply with Sensors, giving “yes” or “no” answers.
  • Try to be on good terms with all people, even those that you consider beneath you. Try to understand that everybody has something to offer.

Ten Rules to Live By to Achieve INFJ Success

  1. Feed Your Strengths! Do things that allow your brilliant intuition and service-oriented manner to flourish.
  2. Face Your Weaknesses! See your weaknesses for what they are, and seek to overcome them. Especially, strive to use your judgment against your internal ideas and intuitions, rather than as a means of disregarding other people’s ideas.
  3. Talk Through Your Thoughts. You need to step through your intuitions in order to put them into perspective. Give yourself time to do this, and take advantage of discussing ideas with others. You’ll find externalizing your internal intuitions to be a valuable exercise.
  4. Take in Everything. Don’t dismiss ideas prematurely because you don’t respect the person generating the ideas, or because you think you already know it all. After all, everybody has something to offer, and nobody knows everything. Steven Covey says it so well when he says: “Seek first to understand, and then to be understood.”
  5. When You Get Angry, You Lose. Your passion and intensity are strong assets, but can be very harmful if you allow yourself to fall into the “Anger Trap”. Remember that Anger is destructive to your personal relationships. Work through your anger before you impress it upon others, or you will likely find yourself alone. Disagreements and disappointments can only be handled effectively in a non-personal and dispassionate manner.
  6. Keep Your Eye on the Big Picture Watch out for your tendency to become obsessed with details. If you find yourself feeling very, very strongly about a small detail, take a big step back and make sure that you can still see the goal. You’re not going to get there if you get mired in the details.
  7. Be Accountable for Yourself. Don’t blame the problems in your life on other people. Look inwardly for solutions. No one has more control over your life than you have.
  8. Be Humble. Judge yourself at least as harshly as you judge others.
  9. Assume the Best. Don’t distress yourself and others by dwelling on the dark side of everything. Just as there is a positive charge for every negative charge, there is a light side to every dark side. Remember that positive situations are created by positive attitudes. Expect the best, and the best will come forward.
  10. Relax! Do yourself a favor and learn how to effectively unwind. Get exercise and restful sleep. Take vacations. Engage in relaxing activities. Take care of yourself and your loved ones by learning to let go of your passion and intensity for a respite.

April 1, 2012 / Jay Quigs

Keep It Fresh

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With the rising price of fresh fruits and vegetables, I took it upon myself to discover the magic of indoor gardening. I wondered if it was something I could manage with a small one bedroom apartment with no yard or balcony. It was definately a surprise to find that having an indoor garden really doesn’t have to take up too much space. Unfortunately, I have yet to find an apartment friendly guide to growing fruit. However, you can at least save a buck or two when it comes to veggies!  Personally, I wouldn’t mind sacrificing some room to have fresh, free vegetables (unless you’re counting the price of seeds…)

The best straight-forward, dummy proof indoor gardening guide on the web is through eHow: How to Grow an Indoor Vegetable Garden. It breaks it down into easy steps in a nice comprehensible list. Through further research (reference guides are everywhere), I found the top vegetables to grow are: Pepper (green), Cucumber, Radishes, Leafy Greens (lettuce, spinach), Tomatoes, and Eggplant. They need a room tempature to be ranging between 65-75 degrees farenheight and a sunny windowsill. Between these six vegetables it generally takes 1 to 3 months before they’re ripe for the pickin’.

To the full benefits, I suggest using organic soil and making your own compost! A.T.T.R.A’s National Sustainable Agriculture Information Service  page is a very detailed guide (which you will need) that helps you to: better understand commercial blends, how to make your own soil, know what ingredients are allowed, and who sells organic soil among other things.

For around $20 you can pick up a small ’Compost Pot’ at Walmart, Lowes, Kmart, or just about anywhere. Composting is pretty cut and dry. This will be more beneficial if you often cook and find yourself throwing away a lot of vegetable or fruit peels. There are a many different composting guides out there, but Eco Walk The Talk is the most appropriate for this blog. They will give you a good break down of the science behind composting, ingredients, and what to expect.

I’m Just Saying…

On a more personal level, I see this as an opportunity to also help local farmers. The money you don’t spend on those store bought vegetables can go towards buying your fruits and veggies from the local farmer’s market. A majority of our foods today aren’t fresh or natural. That has turned into common knowledge. Too many chemicals are being pumped into our foods that end up in our bodies.